Animal Companion Death
Animal Companion Death
The death of an animal companion can be one of the first losses we experience. Pets are constant companions for years at a time, and for adults on the spectrum the bond with an animal can be especially close. Animal companions listen without judgment, are loyal, and provide a constant presence. Some animals also serve as service animals, trained to assist, reassure, or comfort.
The absence of a beloved animal due to death, or even when a pet is missing, can cause intense grief reactions for an autistic adult. Visit Grief and Autism to learn more about grief reactions.
Tips for Supporting Your Loved One
When helping a bereaved person with autism cope after the death of an animal companion, it is important to:
- Recognize and support — Value the grieving individual’s feelings and focus on the pet who has died, rather than immediately suggesting replacing it.
- Avoid euphemisms — Be clear and direct about what happened. Use words like “died” instead of “passed away” or “lost him” to promote clarity and understanding. For example, if a pet was euthanized, avoid using the phrase “put down” or “put to sleep.”
- Find ways to remember — Use mementos and pictures to provide a connection to the deceased pet. Holding a collar, leash, or favorite toy, or snuggling their pet’s favorite blanket are ways to remember them. As with a person’s death, it may help to view the pet’s body after death.
- Create a space for ritual — Unlike people, pets are rarely buried at cemeteries. Place a marker, small statue, or stone engraved with the pet’s name in the yard or other accessible location to provide comfort, solace, and an ability to easily visit the place as a way to remember them.
- Communicate — Eventually you can ask whether, and when, it may be appropriate and comforting to welcome another animal companion.